I remember before I was married and before I had a baby, every shower invite I received elicited a big groan. I also probably made excuses and maybe even forgot to send gifts... (Sorry guys! Shame on me, I was admittedly a pretty crumby friend, but I am trying really hard to make up for it). Now, I'm excited every time I get a bridal shower or baby shower invite in the mail because its a chance to get out of the…